Doing It For Whom?

Someone has said that “our morality is who we are in the dark, when no one else is watching, when nobody knows, or perhaps even cares.” In this respect, my buddy, an alcoholic in recovery for many years–he once shared a revealing experience with me....

Relationship Rule #1

The more we’re trying to change anyone, the more they will be resisting us. Relationships are what family therapists call “emotional systems.” The most important characteristic of which is how more or less reactive the persons involved are to one...

Getting Off the Guilt Hook–Finally

I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy–what happened to the University of South Carolina’s great sophomore running back, Marcus Lattimore, who suffered a season-ending knee injury when the Gamecocks played at Mississippi State in a recent college...

Who or What Defines You?

Across my nearly seven decades of living, I have decided that the most important question for any of us is, “Who or what defines us? Who or what tells us who we are?” For some, it is primarily material; for others, moral and spiritual–or perhaps...